Narcissists don’t like these Kinds of People;
1. They Dislike Sick people

Narcissists tend to have a Distaste for Sick people. If you have ever been sick in the presence of a Narcissist, you’ve likely Seen This, because when you’re ill, you can’t do things To accommodate them—and they Require you to be able to Serve them always

Narcissists look At Relationships as Transactions, they will give a little, but Expect a lot from you, so if you don’t have the Resources to give them your undivided attention or help them because you might be sick, they will see you as useless and will make sure you Recognize that you Are useless.

2. They don’t like Happy people either

If you’ve been around a narcissist, you’ve most likely seen them Ruin special moments, like birthdays, holidays, and celebrations. Why?? Because those occasions aren’t about them and they also become jealous when they witness others enjoying themselves.

Narcissists cause pain in others to feel better about themselves because they are deeply unhappy. So when something good happens to you, whether it’s a raise or someone compliments you, they will usually try to bring you down, it’s as if they can’t handle your happiness.

You might be thinking, “shouldn’t someone that loves me be happy for me?” Of course, but not a narcissist, they want to dictate how you feel; that is why your happiness, especially when you’re not with them, is the best revenge because they can’t ruin it if you are not around them.

3. Narcissists Dislike Truth-Tellers

Narcissists dislike those who tell the truth. If you are a person who stands up and calls out inappropriate behavior – no matter the source – you probably created anger in a Narcissist.

You are not a person who assists them in lying or manipulating, you are actually doing the opposite. You point out and expose the truth, so narcissists see truth-tellers as a THREAT. They cannot easily manage and utilize relationships when someone like you is present.

So what do narcissists do? They will avoid you if at all possible, but if they have no choice, especially in family situations, they will try everything to make you look bad. They may insult you, try to prove their point otherwise, or question your intentions in general. This is typically why truth-tellers often end up being scapegoats, or what is often referred to as the “black sheep” of the family.

20 Behaviours Narcissists DON’T Like

1. Being ignored – nothing wounds them more than indifference

2. Boundaries – “no” feels like an insult

3. Criticism (even gentle or factual)

4. Being exposed or fact-checked

5. Not being the center of attention

6. Independent thinkers who don’t need their approval

7. Emotional neutrality (grey-rocking)

8. Accountability for their actions

9. People who outgrow them

10. Empathy directed at others instead of them

11. Delayed responses to messages or demands

12. Being laughed at instead of admired

13. Calm confidence (they prefer insecurity they can control)

14. Disagreement without emotional reaction

15. Private success they can’t take credit for

16. Consistency (they thrive on chaos and confusion)

17. Healthy self-esteem in others

18. Clear consequences for bad behavior

19. Truth over image

20. People who leave without drama

20 Behaviours Narcissists LIKE

1. Excessive admiration and praise

2. Emotional reactions (anger, tears, pleading)

3. People who overshare (gives them leverage)

4. Insecurity they can exploit

5. Conflict that keeps attention on them

6. Being needed rather than respected

7. People who chase closure

8. Apologies they never give back

9. Control over time, money, or emotions

10. Public validation (social media applause, status symbols)

11. Competition they believe they’ll win

12. Confusion and mixed signals

13. People who explain themselves too much

14. Forgiveness without change

15. Silence that comes from fear

16. Triangulation (pitting people against each other)

17. Image management over truth

18. People who mistake intensity for love

19. Power imbalances

20. Access without accountability

Key Insight (Important)

Narcissists don’t necessarily want love — they want supply:

• Attention

• Validation

• Control

• Emotional energy

Once supply dries up, interest fades.

THE COMPLETE NARCISSIST PLAYBOOK

Romantic • Family • Workplace • Life Cycle • Survival Strategies

1. TYPES OF NARCISSISTS (Quick Orientation)

Grandiose Narcissist

• Loud, charming, arrogant

• Loves spotlight, status, domination

Vulnerable / Covert Narcissist

• Quiet, passive-aggressive, victim-based

• Uses guilt, pity, and moral superiority

Malignant Narcissist

• Sadistic traits, enjoys harm

• Mix of narcissism + antisocial behavior

(All share entitlement, lack of empathy, fragile ego.)

2. HOW NARCISSISTS OPERATE BY RELATIONSHIP TYPE

A. ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS

What They LIKE

1. Love-bombing targets

2. Emotional dependence

3. Sexual validation

4. Jealous reactions

5. Trauma bonding

6. Over-giving partners

7. Fixers and healers

8. Apologies after abuse

9. Fear of abandonment

10. Partners who chase closure

What They HATE

1. Emotional detachment

2. Stable self-esteem

3. Saying “I’ll think about it”

4. Boundaries around sex or money

5. Accountability conversations

6. Calm breakups

7. Being replaced quickly

8. No-contact

9. Therapy-language used correctly

10. Partners who stop explaining themselves

B. FAMILY NARCISSISTS (Parents, Siblings, Relatives)

What They LIKE

1. Obedience without question

2. Family image protection

3. Golden child / scapegoat roles

4. Financial dependence

5. Guilt-based loyalty

6. Silence about abuse

7. Public praise, private cruelty

8. Generational control

9. “After all I’ve done for you”

10. Fear of being disowned

What They HATE

1. Adult independence

2. Therapy and self-healing

3. Rewriting family narratives

4. No-contact or low-contact

5. Public exposure

6. Emotional neutrality

7. Legal boundaries

8. Siblings comparing notes

9. Calm refusal

10. Breaking generational cycles

C. WORKPLACE NARCISSISTS (Bosses, Colleagues)

What They LIKE

1. Credit theft

2. Yes-people

3. Unclear roles

4. Competition sabotage

5. Long unpaid hours

6. Emotional workers

7. Public praise for them

8. Fear-based loyalty

9. Triangulation

10. Chaos environments

What They HATE

1. Documentation

2. Email trails

3. HR-savvy employees

4. Clear job descriptions

5. Unionization

6. Calm professionalism

7. Private excellence

8. Team solidarity

9. Boundaries on time

10. Leaving without drama

3. THE NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP CYCLE

1. IDEALIZATION

• You’re “special,” “chosen,” “different”

• Excessive praise, attention, mirroring

2. DEVALUATION

• Criticism, gaslighting, withdrawal

• You’re confused, self-doubting

3. DISCARD

• Cold exit, replacement lined up

• Often cruel or humiliating

4. HOOVERING

• “I miss you”

• Fake apologies

• Emergencies, nostalgia, guilt

5. COLLAPSE (when supply dries up)

• Rage

• Depression

• Addiction

• Paranoia

• Smear campaigns

4. THEIR BIGGEST FEARS (CORE TRUTHS)

1. Being irrelevant

2. Being ordinary

3. Being exposed

4. Losing control

5. Aging

6. Abandonment

7. Accountability

8. Emotional equality

9. Authentic intimacy

10. Being truly known

5. COMMON MANIPULATION TACTICS

• Gaslighting

• Love-bombing

• Silent treatment

• Triangulation

• Projection

• Future-faking

• Word salad

• Victim reversal

• Breadcrumbing

• Smear campaigns

Once you name the tactic, it loses power.

6. HOW TO DEAL WITH NARCISSISTS (PRACTICAL STRATEGIES)

A. GREY ROCK (Most Effective)

• Emotionless responses

• Short, boring answers

• No personal info

Example:

“Okay.”
“Noted.”
“That won’t work for me.”

B. LOW CONTACT

• Minimal interaction

• No emotional sharing

• Controlled access

C. NO CONTACT (Gold Standard)

• Block everywhere

• No checking socials

• No “closure talks”

⚠️ Closure is a trap.

D. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING (Work/Family)

• Dates

• Messages

• Witnesses

• Patterns

Facts beat charm.

E. STOP EXPLAINING

Explaining = invitation to manipulate.

F. EXPECT SMEAR CAMPAIGNS

• Silence beats defense

• Consistency reveals truth over time

7. WHY THEY NEVER CHANGE (HARSH REALITY)

• No self-reflection

• No genuine remorse

• Therapy used as performance

• Change requires ego death

Most narcissists only change when:

• They lose everything

• And even then, often temporarily

8. SIGNS YOU’RE HEALING FROM A NARCISSIST

1. Peace feels normal

2. Silence doesn’t scare you

3. You trust your memory again

4. You stop rehearsing arguments

5. You laugh more

6. Your body relaxes

7. You stop craving validation

8. You don’t stalk their life

9. You choose boring kindness

10. You protect your energy

FINAL TRUTH

Narcissists don’t destroy people because they’re powerful.
They do it because they are empty — and borrow identity from others.

The moment you:

• Stop reacting

• Stop explaining

• Stop chasing

You become invisible to them —
and free.